HEALING THE BATTLE-SCARRED HEART: OVERCOMING HEARTBREAK AND HEARTACHE
Life often feels like a battleground where we face various challenges and adversities. While some battles we win with grace, others leave us wounded and scarred, with emotional wounds that can be as painful as any physical injury. Heartbreak and heartache are two such adversaries that can leave us feeling broken and defeated. Just like warfighters on the battlefield, we too can find the strength to overcome these emotional battles and emerge stronger than ever before.
Acknowledge the Pain
The first step in healing from heartbreak and heartache is acknowledging the pain. Just as a soldier must assess their injuries on the battlefield, you need to recognize and accept your emotional wounds. It's natural to want to avoid the pain, but facing it head-on is crucial for the healing process.
Seek Support
In the military, no one goes into battle alone. Similarly, when you're dealing with heartbreak, it's essential to seek support from friends, family, or even a therapist. Surrounding yourself with a support network can provide comfort and guidance during the darkest times.
Embrace Self-Care
Warfighters know the importance of taking care of their physical and mental well-being. In the same way, self-care is vital for healing from heartbreak. Engage in activities that make you feel good, whether it's exercising, meditating, or pursuing a hobby you're passionate about.
Allow Yourself to Grieve
Grieving is a natural part of the healing process. Just as soldiers mourn their fallen comrades, you must allow yourself to grieve the loss or disappointment that caused your heartache. Give yourself permission to feel and express your emotions.
Focus on Personal Growth
Often, adversity is an opportunity for personal growth. Use this time to reflect on what you've learned from the experience. Think about your strengths and areas where you can improve as a person. Just as a warfighter becomes more skilled after each battle, you can become emotionally stronger after overcoming heartbreak.
Set Goals and Stay Positive
Warfighters set clear objectives and maintain a positive mindset, even in the face of adversity. Set goals for your emotional recovery and focus on the future. Surround yourself with positivity, whether through inspirational books, motivational quotes, or uplifting friends.
Learn Forgiveness
Forgiving yourself and, if necessary, those who have caused your heartache is a powerful step towards healing. Holding onto anger and resentment can prolong the pain. By forgiving, you free yourself from the emotional burden and open the door to inner peace.
Embrace New Beginnings
Soldiers don't dwell on past battles and operations, they learn from it and move on. It's essential to embrace new beginnings. Life is a series of chapters, and while heartache may be a difficult one, there are many more waiting to be written. Be open to new experiences, friendships, and opportunities.
In Conclusion
Heartbreak and heartache may leave us feeling wounded, but with the right strategies and support, we can heal and emerge from these battles stronger and more resilient. Just as warfighters draw on their training, determination, and the brotherhood to face adversity, we can draw on our inner strength, self-care, and the support of our loved ones to overcome the pain of heartbreak and heartache.
Remember, healing takes time, but with persistence and a positive outlook, you can find peace and get get back on the path once more.
For me it was the loss of a 6 friends and 5 family members in a 5 year span. I never had time to grieve and that absolutely crushed my heart, soul and desire to continue being a leader at my employer and within my family. Ultimately my depression caused me to lose 2 jobs back to back and created an opportunity to take a long look at myself from the outside.
With that said the last 2 years has been the hardest with the losses of 5 former team mates (not military) that were men I considered my brothers and one very close female friend that I had dated while in college. Each one of those people’s sudden disappearance from my life in less than 2 years total really beat me down. It opened wounds that had just scarred over from when my first close family members passed away a few years before. At times I thought I was in such a deep, dark hole that I saw no way out. But with finding the peace and making time for others to talk with them and read scripture or spend time just sitting and looking at the world I am slowly healing. Starting the Raid series this week to help rebuild the physical side while I am still working on the mental side. However, I am miles farther ahead now than I was this time last year or even 2 years ago; when the flood gates opened.
Just remember that your support network is there…you just have to be brave and bold enough to speak out and ask for the help you need! If you don’t have a network of friends to support you; look me up somehow and I’ll be glad to just listen.
Just went through divorce Sep 1. I’m in a battle of offense and defense, some days I just want to hold out and build my defense and then other days i want to go my own path and cause destruction and other I wait patiently until I have the right moment to strike. The worst part of those three is I don’t have a break in between them and they are hitting me all at once instead of working together
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